A four year old in a foreign land: daycare dilemma

“She’s doing a lot better – she’s starting to eat a little and doesn’t cry when somebody goes near her anymore”, the carers say. It’s a long way looking back 5 months ago when my 4 year old daughter just started daycare. The first 3 months there were probably the most stressful time in her life with all of the adjustments from moving to Australia. But now, little by little, she’s thriving – all thanks to none other but herself.

One way ticket for Princess Cheesenose’s first ever flight.

Deciding to relocate was quick. My husband got the offer and within 3 months, we would be starting a new life away from our homeland. Sure, both of us were used to staying at different countries for more than a month but never actually thought of living in a new one indefinitely with the whole family. Those 3 months were all about planning, dreaming, packing, selling along with anticipation, hope and anxiety; then, hugs, tears, laughter and goodbyes. We were leaving the life we’ve built and off to create a new home.

I was scared for our daughter. She has left family behind: the 7 year old neighbour who she plays with almost everyday, her cousins who let her play their video games, her grandparents who adore her and showers her with love, and her nanny she’s known all of her life. We stopped her ballet classes and pulled her out from kindergarten which she had just started less than a month before. We were pulling her out of everything and everyone. I didn’t know how she’s going to take it.

The first 2 months here was a blissful blur. We were all on a high from being in a new country. New sights, sounds and taste. We had a lot to do, from feeling like a tourist and exploring places, to finding and settling into a new home. We went to a lot of parks and playgrounds. We fell in love with the place. Our daughter was having the time of her life. When asked if she wants to go back, she would answer “just to visit”. She wants to stay here in Australia. I was happy and relieved as I didn’t expect her to get accustomed to the new life so quickly.

Things changed when we started her at daycare. She was used to a different environment. Before moving, when her parents were at work, she was cared for by her nanny with no other kids around except for the 7 year old neighbour. At school, it was all about learning –  teacher in front and students in their lined up chairs raising their hands if they want to say something. It’s fairly quiet except for food breaks. But here now, kids were running around screaming and it was a lot to take in for her.

Culture shock for a four year old, now that was fun.

We started her Monday and by the first Wednesday, somebody called me just after lunch because she wouldn’t stop crying. They told me that the only time she calmed down a bit was when they asked her if she wanted Mummy to pick her up already and she said “yes”. When she saw me, she melted in my arms so fast like a snowman heated with a blowtorch. I didn’t know how to respond because it was the first time I’ve seen her like that. The next few months were filled with crying, screaming and clinging-for-dear-life moments every drop-off. I would stay for more than 30 minutes because she just wouldn’t stop wailing. I told the carers what I think would make her more comfortable there, interfering with how they connect with my kid. I even got her one of those kids’ GPS watches that tracks where they are, hear and see what they’re doing, and lets them call you for emergencies. I hoped it would help but it just made things worse; she would call me nonstop which made her distance herself more to the people around her. I also got obsessed with calling her secretly to hear things, only to realise that she’s crying and there’s nothing I could do about it. It did more harm than good. Mornings became a gruelling time for us.

I should’ve anticipated it, really. She has an introverted temperament like her Mum, after all. When she was a little girl, I brought her to my office and instantly cried when one of my colleagues looked at her. No touching or talking, just looked. New faces making a lot of noise bothered her. I would tell everyone not to talk or even look at her because it makes her very upset. After a few visits though, she got used to being at the office and just roamed around every corner, dancing to the music my boss played for her. Thinking about it, it was because I didn’t stop bringing her to the office even though she cried a lot for the first few times I brought her. I realised it wasn’t because I told everyone else how to deal with her but because I let her deal with everyone herself. I trusted her that eventually, she’ll get through her anxiety, as long as she knows I’m there to support her.

“You’re braver than you believe, and stronger than you seem, and smarter than you think.” ~Christopher Robin

I applied that for her daycare dilemma. In the mornings, before going to daycare, we started to talk about what she thought she’d do that day. We would psych ourselves up that it was going to be a good day. She would cry sometimes before going out of the house so we would sit in the couch for a few extra minutes to calm her down, telling her it’s normal to feel sad and overwhelmed but eventually, it will all be alright like when she used to visit my office. No more holding her for 30 minutes, I suggested I needed to leave immediately during drop-offs even if she’s crying so the carers there can take care of her. I told her that she’s brave and strong because even though she’s crying and that she feels scared and lonely, she still goes to daycare and she’s getting better at it day by day. At night, we would recall what she felt during the day and talk about it – showing her my excitement when she tells me something good that has happened and helping her deal with what made her sad or lonely. I kept reminding her to take the challenges head on, and those make her better. She doesn’t open up everyday, or maybe there is really not much to tell, but sometimes we would actually have a long and hearty conversation. I feel those moments made her have more faith in herself and cultivated a stronger bond between us, too.

Daycare crafts

By the 4th month, the carers were telling me that they see a big improvement with her behaviour. She began talking to them and telling them if she needs something. I experienced it at drop-offs, too. Now, after a kiss and a hug, I can freely go, no tears! Sure, there are still times that she cries but it’s lesser than before. Even though she doesn’t have a constant playmate yet, she doesn’t get upset when they’re near and she even talks to them sometimes. She now says goodbye to her playmates and carers without coaxing! I see her relax and enjoy herself more even if Mummy is not around (I sneak in during pick-ups and would just watch her for a few minutes first, until some of the kids see me and hurry up to tell her they saw her Mummy already). She’s starting to showcase her amazing mind and fabulous dancing skills at daycare. She’s beginning to thrive; Daddy Cheesenose and I couldn’t be more ecstatic!

As parents, we need to remember that we are not here to serve and cater to our kids’ every need, rather, to give them the tools that can help them navigate through life by themselves. For a control-freak like me, it took a lot of willpower to leave her be, but I am glad that I did. Her daycare life has improved a lot and I know it was because I let her deal with it on her own and resisted the urge to intervene when she’s stressed. It’s still a long way for her and me, but with faith and love for each other, I know we got this.

How about you, how do you deal with your kids’ dilemma? Any tips you’d like to share? Leave your comments below.

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Personal, Self help

I’m bringing spunky back

Little by little, I’m finding myself back. And so should you.

I adore jewelry – not the expensive kind because I’m always worried I’ll lose them – but those little baubles you can wear everywhere. Shiny, colorful, and sparkly which can fit any outfit. I especially love necklaces. When we moved to Australia, I carefully planned the stuff I can bring on the 30 kilo allowance I had and roughly 25% of the total weight were allocated to my handmade necklaces and some jewelries given to me by my mom, sister and Daddy Cheesenose. But since we moved here months ago, I’ve worn them maybe… 3 times? And thinking about it, I’ve been wearing them lesser and lesser than before Princess Cheesenose was born.

You know the drill, ladies: have a baby and let yourself go. For some of us, that’s the truth. Baby needs you, you can take a bath later. Baby needs you, you can eat your cold lunch later. Baby is asleep, your partner needs you. Baby and partner are asleep, your job needs you. Done with the other job? Now get to cleaning. We happily do these things for others because they are important. But when are you going to realize that YOU need you, that YOU are important too? Some mommas realize this earlier than others, while some hasn’t or refused to acknowledge it at all.

The “Mom-Me” Identity

But why are you going to put yourself first? You are responsible for your home yet you will recklessly abandon it for some time to do what exactly – have your nails done? Isn’t that selfish? You are a mother for crying out loud, act like one!

It’s not easy reconciling the person you were before, the person you are now, the person you want to become, and the person you could be.

I just want to have a little bit of a girly fun like I used to have but what if they wouldn’t know how to help him sleep, what if he just cries all the time?

I really need to finish this presentation before I head home. This could be my ticket in getting the promotion I’ve always wanted. But what if the baby needs me now?

My precious makeup kit is moldy now, should I get a new one? But I don’t even know when I am going to use it anyway.

These online courses, blogs and community are useless. Why do I even try to learn something new when I won’t have time to apply it?

I don’t want to go to the doctor, what if he tells me I need to stay at the hospital? Who’s going to take care of the baby? I’ll just take some pain reliever again.

Before you became a mother, you were your own self – a woman, who has developed her own habits and needs to get through life. You’re a chef, a teacher, a dancer, a professional, a painter, an adventure seeker, an excellent makeup artist… you don’t stop being you just because you’ve had another human being come out of you or in to your life. Being a mother has been added to your outstanding resume and nothing or nobody should take away something that is a part of who you are; not even that adorable little monkey hugging your leg right now. You can’t forget who you are because one day, your child will be inspired with all of your awesomeness.

It’s not that you want to go back, you just have to take something along the road to remind you of you. Put up a photo of you pre-motherhood. Listen to your favorite childhood song. Chat with your friends about something you did when you were all in primary school. Talk to your partner about your first date.

Grab that oxygen mask and breathe

Have you ever heard the aircraft crew tell the passengers that in the event of an emergency, put the oxygen mask on yourself first before anybody else? That way, you can help others better rather than you gasping for air while you fumble putting it on them first and you all might just end up suffering more. So, grab that mask for yourself and breathe in some air for once. If anything, try to see yourself as another person in your home. Why do you take care of your family? Why do you keep them safe, do what you think is best for them, and cater to them to the best of your abilities? It’s because it’s your responsibility to nurture them; it is because you love them. So why would it be different for yourself?

One thing you should consider is that if your baby can understand you now and what you’re going through, I’d bet if he thinks it will help you, he would want you to take a little nap, watch that movie you’ve wanted to see since last year, or take a nice long bubble bath (preferably with wine on your hand). I know I would like my mom to be happy, and if there’s any thing within my power that I can do to make it happen, I will gladly do it. Don’t you think your little one would do the same? Even if he’s still small and crying all most of the time, with his developing mind and big, stunning heart, he loves you and would want you to wear that favorite necklace of yours you’ve been dying to wear again – even if you’re just staying inside the house – because he can see you smile when you wear it (and partly because he wants to bite it, too).

Looks yummy, right?

One small thing

Little things, that’s the key. Do something for yourself. Start small, eyeing for something grand right away will take more planning thus will less likely to become a reality. Spend an extra minute in the bathroom not because you have to clean it, but because you just want to. Read a chapter from the book you like so much. Listen to music that doesn’t say anything about stars, sheep or baby sharks. Trying to get her to sleep? Sing your favorite song, not just any lullaby or nursery rhyme; if you have some dance moves with it, that’s better! Rocking the baby to sleep while you are rocking to the beat, nice image, yes?

Resentment is a cruel, cruel thing

As smoking is to the lungs, so is resentment to the soul; even one puff is bad for you. – Elizabeth Gilbert

It’s one thing to feel resentment to other people, it’s another to be at the receiving end of it. It’s all good and inspiring that you’re giving everything to your children. We are mothers, we give our heart and soul; just remember to take back some of it for yourself. When you lose yourself in your kids, you may end up narrating every single thing you did for them once they start to separate themselves from you. It’s a kind of guilt that your children might not be able to shake, because whatever they try to do now, it will never be enough compared to what you did for them. Hanging that over their faces would not do anyone any good. Personally, this is one of my greatest fears and motivation to keep myself in check while taking care of my family. I don’t want these 4 years and counting of good childhood memories to be tainted by guilt once Princess Cheesenose grows up. Remind yourself to take better care of yourself now so you won’t force anyone else to do that for you later on.

Allow yourself to feel

If you put all your emotions in a jar, close the lid, and open it ever so cautiously just to add to it over time, guess what – eventually, it will explode. Not in a pop! kind of way but more like a KABOOM!POW!SHAZAM! kind of spectacle. With bits of glass everywhere, some getting to the people at the house (heavens forbid, at your baby). And even if you try to clean the mess up, from time to time, you’ll stumble on those little specs of glass that you missed on the day you try to clean it all up. And it still hurts like sh*t. Sure, you can try to put the glass back together, but you will always wonder if or when it will explode again. That’s nervous breakdown right there, dear beautiful and strong mommas. It’s ugly, messy, debilitating, and you couldn’t anticipate it happening, it just does. When you feel lost, allow your feelings to guide you through where you can find yourself again. Acknowledge what you’re feeling, own it, harness it, and transform that darkness inside of you into something bright and good, and you might just come out of it stronger.

Help is around the corner

You can do everything. You are strong, you are brave, you are a mountain. But maybe you don’t have to be one all the time.

Involve your family. Ask help from your partner to do the dishes because you feel sleepy. Get your kid to sort out the beads and put them in the chains so you could make a necklace together. Chores for toddlers like packing away the toys are a good start. Once she gets older, show her how the washing machine works and how you sort the clothes so eventually she can help you out. Amaze her with how much bubble is coming out from the sponge and sliding onto the plates and making them so clean that she would beg you to wash the dishes one day (this just happened to me today, by the way). It may not be perfect and you can’t expect her to do it all the time, but it’s something you all benefit from.

Involve your friends. You’d be surprised how many people, including those who are not mothers, are experiencing something similar to what you’re going through. Talk it out. Create chat groups so you can keep in touch.

Involve your community. Reach out to one another. Find good, like-minded people who will help you. Share and get tips on how to revive or maintain that passion for something outside motherhood.

I hope, if you haven’t done so before this post, that you realize you are worth investing time for. Now, if you’ll excuse me, I’ll go ahead and put that colorful bling on my neck and start cooking.

Want to share your thoughts on this post? Hit the comments section below.

Games, Indoor games

Indoor games: Scavenger hunt with a twist

Get your phone and the treasures to hide. Tell your kid – “close your eyes” – and let’s start hiding!

Hey, not you, Mommy! Hide the little treasures your kid needs to find.

Have you ever played scavenger hunt around the house and with almost every thing you hid, your kid asked for lots and lots of clues before you just ended up pointing where it is in the first place? Well, let me show you what I did to be left alone in peace for 5 minutes (woot! I finally have time for a shower) while Princess Cheesenose hunts for her little babies scattered around the house using the phone as a guide. If you are not comfortable letting your little one hold the phone, just show the photos as they go through each treasure.


I made it easy for her on the first try. Here are the steps:

Step 1 – Place all of the treasures in one place and take a photo. This will serve as the reference of what has been found and what may still be missing.

Step 2 – Hide one treasure, take a photo of it and the surroundings; close enough so it won’t reveal too much of the area but far enough that they’ll have a fairly good idea where or what to look for. Repeat with the other treasures.

Step 3 – Explain the rules. Guide on the first one if needed. Hand the phone or show the photos one by one.

Binoculars… ready!

Step 4 – Sit back and relax for FIVE WHOLE MINUTES BABY!

Bonus step – Now is the time to hide yourself if you want another minute or so.


This round has similar steps but instead of taking one photo each treasure, take 3 photos: 1 close-up, 1 with a little bit of the surrounding and 1 with the general area. You can take this chance to teach them about perseverance: taking time and trying to figure out where the treasure is with just the 1st photo and not be tempted to look at the next one. Daddy Cheesenose and I just hid 2 treasures with this round to test it out. She got the 1st treasure after looking at all 3 photos. I challenged her on the next toy and she found it with just 2. Great progress, right?

Can you guess which toy she found with 2 photos? How about you, do you apply a twist on your scavenger hunt to make it more interesting? Tell me in the comments section below.

Crafts, DIY, Kids' crafts

Lazy crafts series: Cardboard box

While you enjoy the occasional grand crafting experience, you might find that even the simple ones that doesn’t peak your own interest so much will do the trick with the youngsters.

It’s not the brightness of the colors or the way it reflects on the photograph that they remember, but how it felt so good doing something with the people they love the most.

Picture this: you are thinking of doing some crafts with the kids to spend some quality time with them. You search on Pinterest and see these gorgeous photos and you start to get giddy finding that one that you’ll do today. You click the link, read through the post then realize you only have about 20 minutes left before you need to go to work,run an errand, or cook lunch. As much as you want to do it and as much as it looks like fun, you just don’t have the time. You close the post, pin the image, then remind yourself to open it when you have more time. Then you see another one and another one and another one. Before you know it, you have 10 new pins on your board and 0 crafts on your kids’ hands.

While these kinds of crafts are very exciting to do, I find myself needing to prepare longer for them. So for the daily routine, I usually opt for those quick and easy ones that are still enjoyable, engaging, and educational. With these series of posts, I’m going to show you some examples of simple, yet effective, crafts you can easily do at home. Mind you, the pictures do not do justice to the delight I see on Princess Cheenose’s face when we did these. So let’s start crafting!

Cardboard box

From boxes of cereals, facial tissues, shoes, and appliances to the packages you get from your online shopping, these cardboard boxes are probably plentiful around your house. They are sturdy enough to withstand being held by those chubby little hands and are cheap enough that you won’t feel bad when they get broken.

Matching game

I cut 14 squares (it’s up to you how many pairs you want to do) of equal size, 1.5 inches each. Then just draw on one side. For this set, I used basic shapes and different colors.


Princess Cheesenose loves books and likes pretending to read them so we started teaching her about phonics when she was about 3 years old. When she was able to sound the alphabet, I made her a similar phonics cards set like this which we practiced on. For this set though, notice I used one color for the consonants and another color for vowels. You can opt to do this for vowels and consonants recognition and later on start with the blending/pattern; or just use one set of color first. I had limited cardboard at hand so I just made the vowels and consonants that would form short words (consonant-vowel-consonant CVC) first then added more later on. Think map, cap, tap, rap, cat, sat, rat, bat, pat.


We use this for story telling. She helped in the drawing and was the one to name all of the characters. It is usually the same story but she still loves it everytime we do this:

A girl named Ruby is woken up by Mommy Stapapapa. They then proceed to eat cheese pasta for breakfast and prepare to go to school. Sometimes, it rains so they need an umbrella. If it’s rains and lightning strikes, a girl named Pinker turns into a monster. There’s a stoplight along the way and they need to look right and left before crossing the road. Sometimes, Daddy D fetches Ruby, sometimes, she just walks home on her own. The end.

It’s not a necessity to put the cardboards on sticks, you can just hold it. Use the paper for some background effects.


I made her first one when she was 2 years old. We used different sets of eyes, mouth and eyebrows to help her recognize what emotions look like: happy, sad, surprised, angry, asleep, etc.

Pin the nose

This is probably the simplest yet – no donkey or snowman, just a face. She drew a big circle with tiny dots for eyes, triangle for the nose and a smile. I used a scissor to cut the nose and put tape on. Then she taped the face on the wall, used a blindfold and had lots of laughs.

I’m going to update this list once we make up more activities so be sure to check this post every once in a while. If you want a reasonably longer craft project with cardboard boxes, check out my post on how to make your own fidget spinner.

What about you? How have you used cardboards? Write it in the comments section below.

Crafts, DIY

Make your own fidget spinner

Spin! Spin! Spin! This contraption has become a popular toy and now there are a lot of styles to choose from.

Fancy a rainbow, a skull or even one glowing in the dark? Why not all of it? Instead of paying for one, you can make your own with just straw, cardboard, pencil, glue, and scissors! Design it whichever way you want.

A fidget spinner was initially promoted as a stress-reliever. Think spinning stressballs (or maybe a poo-shaped stress reliever ). As its name suggests, it claims to calm down those who fidget and can’t focus. I personally own it’s cousin, a fidget cube, which does help me a little sometimes to tame down my anxiety.

Princess Cheesenose has grown a fascination with this toy and has asked me if I can buy one for her last year. While I’m not really a fan of this heavy metal spinner (I’ve seen a video where a boy’s finger was caught in one of the lobes and people around him where frantically trying to remove it while the boy was screaming from pain), I honored her request and figured we just look for one with no holes. The only one we saw at that time was 20 Australian Dollars….20!!! Breakfast, lunch and dinner would cost less than that. I told her it’s too expensive and we can just keep looking for a cheaper one next time. She agreed and we went home.

Months later and with a free hour at hand before I prepare dinner, I tried to make one. Here’s how it went:

The cardboard I used was a box from my coffee sachets

Now, we let’s make some fidget spinners! Click the image to make it bigger.

Princess Cheesenose did a great job coloring her fidget spinner (and her hand)

Now that she knows we can make our own fidget spinners, she wants to make a giant one for her dad. Empty tissue roll instead of a straw, maybe? What do you think? I think I’m going to need a whole lot more glue sticks for that one!

If you want to do more projects, here are some quick and easy crafts out of cardboard boxes.

What about you, what would you like to make? Are you up to making a giant fidget spinner? Tell me in the comments section below.

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To the mom in the bathroom

To the mom in the bathroom, quietly hiding from everyone, wishing for some moment of peace and clarity: where do you think I am writing this now? You are not alone.

To the mom in the bedroom, tears bursting while she closes the door and slides down it like a scene in a movie: you are neither the first nor will be the last one who’ll do that. You are not alone.

To the mom who has screamed at the top of her lungs in the middle of the night because the baby won’t just shut up: your neighbor with a newborn baby might have just done the exact same thing last night. You are not alone.

To the mom who hasn’t bathe for a week: if you get out now with your baby and be with other moms, you probably won’t smell or look any worse than most of them. You are not alone.

To the mom who hasn’t washed any dishes for more than a day: send me your email address so I can show you a picture of my kitchen last Sunday. You are not alone.

To the mom who’s scared, ashamed, relieved and then feels guilty she felt relief for leaving the baby for the first time: notice that there are a lot of baby monitors out there, ones you can buy and ones installed in the daycare. Why? Because companies saw the demand for these cameras coming from moms and dads who want to see their precious ones even if they are away. You are not alone.

To the mom who hasn’t moved in the bed for more than 4 hours because the baby is still latched onto her, bursting to pee or to scratch that nagging itch at an unreachable place: you’ve probably seen this image shared across your social media accounts more than once because most moms are relating to it. You are not alone.

To the mom who spilled the milk all over the bed: articles for milk stains are plentiful on the internet because they happen all the time. You are not alone.

To the mom who scours the internet for a similar picture of that tiny red bump her kid has and panics about the results: chances are that the reason you find many related pictures is that a lot are seeing the same thing on their kids. You are not alone.

To the mom who’s phone only consists of nursery rhymes, Disney, Peppa Pig, PJ Masks, Octonauts, Paw Patrol, My Little Pony, Hey Duggee and Hi-5 songs : let’s trade playlists and mix it up. You are not alone.

“My” Spotify playlist

To the mom who’s struggling to find work that can fit into her crazy schedule of taking care of the house and her kids: there are websites that understand, cater to, and inspire people looking for work just like us. You are not alone.

To the mom who’s always away and the main interaction she has with her child is through a photograph: talk to co-workers, check out their desks (ask first!), chances are they have photos up, too. You are not alone.

To the mom who’s child prefers the daddy, nanny, carer, grandparent or aunt/uncle over her and feels shattered about it: try asking the preferred person to “build you up”. Together, you are a team. You are not alone.

To the mom who’s resented her partner a bit because of a million different reasons: I’m going to guess that this was one of them

(And to those who hasn’t – how???) You are not alone.

To the mom doubting her every decision: go to the forums and you’ll see a lot others asking the same thing. You are not alone.

To the mom who feels lost, who doesn’t want to admit she thinks of running away from everything sometimes: let’s meet up along the road and hold each other’s hands so nobody will ever get away. You are not alone.

To the mom who feels silly having felt each and every one: I have experienced every single one, too (and more). You are not alone.

There’s a reason why posts like this is abundant. It’s because despite reading countless articles, it’s still one of the most neglected, forgotten and disbelieved comment: YOU ARE NEVER ALONE. Reach out to me, to us. Find comfort with the people who has experienced it. Not just with other moms but with friends and family, too. Reach out to people who support you and ignore those who shame you.

Now come on! Who wants to see my kitchen? Hit me up in the comments section

Self help, Tips

7 simple changes I’ve made to become more productive

  • Having a list set in the early morning or even before going to bed can help you prepare for the day ahead
  • Multi-task on the small things, keep focused on big ones
  • Allow yourself a little bit of procrastination
  • Prioritize
  • Track your period
  • Invest in yourself
  • Acknowledge where you’re making progress and where you’re stuck

Do you ever wake up and immediately go to frantic mode knowing you have a LOT to do within a short time frame? Wash this, iron this, clean those, bathe the kids, feed them, burp them, clean them up again… heart beating very fast now.

Or, maybe when you wake up, everything’s a blank – “What now? Can I just lie in bed please?”

That’s me most previous days and most likely a few more soon. But I decided I can make little changes throughout the day to have a more productive thus less anxiety-filled day.

I had my basic daily routine set up but found out that it wasn’t enough for me. The better alternative was to jot down even the minor things like “put the frozen chicken down the fridge”. I don’t have a journal or a DIY calendar/to-do list (yet) that I can put in the kitchen. Phone, laptop, tablet or even a piece of paper would suffice. I personally use Google Keep and Todoist for my lists (just the free ones). It doesn’t even have to be a whole sentence and organized, as long as you understand it the next day. Then cross them out as you go, you’ll clear it up in no time!

By the way, munggo is a Filipino mung bean dish…yum!

Are you a fan of multi-tasking? I am! My favorite: eating chips while watching on Netflix; that counts, right? Group together small tasks that doesn’t require too much brain power and try to do them two or three at a time. But if you need to spin those thinking gears harder, it’s better to stay focused and concentrate on just one.

This is just half of my Monday morning. How do you do it with more than 1 kid???

Of course you’ll have some days when you just CAN’T. Own it and accept it. Quiet down the guilt and tame the building stress within. After all, it’s still you that’s going to do those things, right? Worst case scenario would be you doing double time on those chores and not finishing them all at once. But you can slowly regain your momentum once you are at your great form, I know you can! Just don’t fall into the trap of constant procrastination as it would never get you anywhere. Rest, play, or watch then got to bounce right back up!

Is your effort still not enough? PRIORITIZE. Sometimes, I can even get Daddy Cheesenose to do the dish washing because it’s always so far down my list of things to do muhahahaha.

If you still feel exhausted and burned out after a good rest, try tracking your period. Hormones affect how we feel and think. Know when you feel most energized and plan your activities around it.

This is the Clue app

And don’t think since you’re just lying around reading a book or having a quick stroll that you’re wasting time away from family. IT’S NOT A WASTE TO INVEST IN YOURSELF. Learning shouldn’t stop when you stop attending a school. Study a new trade, take an online class or listen to podcasts, take steps to improve yourself. Even just spending some time to be refreshed can be beneficial for you. You’ll have so much more to give to your family once you feel more empowered on your own.

No money for a class or a new trade? You probably have internet access right now. Go watch some free videos about sign language and teach it to your kids. Learn how to draw a dinosaur and a whale from basic shapes. Go look for tutorials on how to make flowers out of paper, fabric, or beads (I made my own wedding bouquet 5 years ago). Youtube, Pinterest, Teachable, Udemy, etc. – they all have some free resources.

Here’s my bouquet shown below. Also, click this link to learn how to make a pearl bouquet

And this one is for a dear friend. This is made from cupcake liners, check out one DIY post here

Right now, instead of binge watching on Netflix while cooking, I watch self help videos. That made me push myself into making my personal blog. And boy, I tell ya, it makes me feel empowered (GIRL POWER!)

Lastly, be forgiving enough of yourself to recognize your progress and be humble enough to admit when and where you need help. For one, you can always send me a message, maybe I can help? I’m sure Google can, too!

I hope you’ve gained some tools or ideas through this post to help you become more effective. Now put that gadget down and get to it!

PS. Before you do, do you want to share your own ways on how to be more productive? Have a multitasking trick you’ve mastered? Any tips to juggle time with more than one kid? I would love to hear them! Let’s brainstorm and discuss in the comments section.
PPS. Can anyone suggest a good infographic maker? I had fun making my first one today and would like to further practice making more. Thank you!